by Lisa Woodruff
I remember hearing on the Clutter Interrupted podcast that "Clutter is delayed decision making." WOW did that resonate with me.
Yes! Whenever I am... not sure, out of time or stressed... I don't decide and I pile.
So today I want to talk about the items you are saving for your kids. Specifically - kids artwork, clothing, school papers, old toys, pictures, cards, books, old sporting equipment, etc.
The first question you need to ask is what does your child want to keep? So often I and other mothers save everything "for our kids". But what I realized is I was having trouble letting go.
Letting go of memories, stages of life and opportunities to do more in their short years at home.
At first we save ALL their clothes in case we have another child. But when no more children come, we just say we are saving the clothes for grandchildren. REALLY?!
I DID like it when I had some of my baby clothes to reminisce with my mom about when I had my children. But none of them fit. The stains you can't see now - were glaring when I looked at those clothes 30 years later.
My kids are pretty good at getting rid of things when they are done with them. WE put them in the basement! :)
So really ask your kids - starting at the age of 4 - what THEY want to keep.
Honestly your kids do NOT want every. single. spelling test they ever did. But I know a mom who keeps them all. Her child's handwriting is so precious to her.
That is TOTALLY FINE. Just know you are saving the for YOU not them.
Think about it this way. What if your mom showed up today with 18 boxes of every single school paper you ever did?
Nostalgic? Would you like to see them? Sure of course! For a few hours.
Would you want those 18 boxes in your basement?
How about your baby clothes? 5 large tubs full?
Every single toy you played with?
Of course I'm not saying to pitch everything, but think about it. What do you really want?
So you've gone from saving everything to feeling like I just told you to chuck it all and you're probably screaming at me - at least on the inside.
Of course you are going to save things let's just figure out what, for whom and how.
I feel like a big bully, but it's all about perspective. You can't save it all. You can't go back in time.
What is the BEST. What is your FAVORITE? What can you see yourself playing with your grandchildren?
Because that's who you are saving it for. You and your grandchildren. Your children are going to run to you at 28 and say, hey mom can we please play UNO? And if they did, do you know where it is?
So ok how do we decide what to keep and where?
I'm not totally clueless. I know your storage room is accumulating boxes of things your kids DO want to keep. And those kids want to keep things at YOUR house long after they leave.
It's all about making decisions. While making a scrapbook of pictures, a binder of school papers and a baby blanket {more below} all take TIME - and lots of it. They are a way to:
I have explained in great detail how to make photo albums and save your kid's school papers in binders in other podcasts and posts. Today let's tackle baby clothes.
My kiddos are both adopted. I wanted babies before I wanted a husband. :) In high school I traded baby dolls for real babysitting jobs and worked 5-7 days a week.
Waiting to get pregnant, going through infertility and ultimately adopting our children was pain staking for me. I remember the morning after we got Joey {at 9 pm the night before} going to Walmart with Greg to get a few preemie clothes since he was so tiny and they have the best selection of preemie clothes. (Guess how I already knew that!)
These are the only outfits I still have from my kiddos.
Babies were my life. And I finally had one! So it would stand to reason I would hold on to all his baby clothes. However, when his sister came along 18 months later I knew it was pointless to save baby boy clothes. Even if we had more children {we didn't} I would buy new clothes.
How could I save his baby clothes. Enjoy ALL those memories. And not out grow our storage room before the kids went to school?
I made baby blankets.
Let me take you through this process.
Well you know I have this all documented in our scrapbooks. :)
Here is Joey's 2nd birthday:
And Abby's 2nd birthday:
In the scrapbook I have documented the clothing each fabric came from.
Heavy stuff huh?
Don't get overwhelmed. Don't go on Pinterest.
But DO start thinking about HOW to enjoy the memories of your children TODAY. :)
Oh and for those of you who listened to the podcast... here are the other things I found in the box of items I saved from my kiddos...